Category Archives: Life
Before you complain about the taste of your food,
Think of those who have nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your children,
Think of someone who do not have a child.
Before you argue about your house,
Think of those who are sleeping on streets.
When you are tired and complain about your job,
Think of unemployment and those who wished your job.
Before you think of pointing your finger to others
Remember that none of us are free from sin and complete.
Before you complain about your spouse,
Think of those who are praying to God for a companion.
“Love is something eternal, the aspect may change, but not the essence. Perhaps it will seem to you that the sunshine is brighter and that everything has a new charm. At least, I believe this is always the result of a deep love, and it is a beautiful thing. And I believe people who think love prevents one from thinking clearly are wrong; for then one thinks very clearly and is more active than before. And love is something eternal – the aspect may change, but not the essence. There is the same difference in a person before and after he is in love as there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is burning. The lamp was there and it was a good lamp, but now it is shedding light too, and that is its real function. And love makes one calmer about many things, and in that way, one is more fit for one’s work.”
~Vincent van Gogh
The Radha-Krishna amour is a love legend of all times. It’s indeed hard to miss the many legends and paintings illustrating Krishna’s love affairs, of which the Radha-Krishna affair is the most memorable. Krishna’s relationship with Radha, his favorite among the ‘gopis’ (cow-herding maidens), has served as a model for male and female love in a variety of art forms. Krishna’s youthful dalliances with the ‘gopis’ are interpreted as symbolic of the loving interplay between God and the human soul. Radha’s utterly rapturous love for Krishna and their relationship is often interpreted as the quest for union with the divine. (Courtesy : Hinduism.about.com)
Once upon a time there was a princess. She was in love with a poor boy who was living on the other bank of the river. The royal family did not approve such unequal love affairs but they could not be separated. Ultimately she was under house arrest. But all the security men were very kind to her. One night, with all risks, they opened the door and made her free. She was having a obedient horse. She called her and sat on her back and ordered to run. The horse vanished from the palace within seconds. The horse was driven through the dense forests, rocks and finally a river. The obedient horse did not mind to jump into the river to cross it to take her mistress’s destination- the other bank of the river where princess’s dream man stay. Now look at the picture, the princess is in her halfway to cross the river.
The rest of the story will be written once the princess crosses the river and meet her dream “prince”.
Till then we have to wait and pray for a fairy tale ending ——– “married and lived happily ever after”.
Note : The story presented above is based on my imagination, inspired by the above photograph.
( In reality : A bride crosses a lake as she rides a horse during a set of photo shoot in Shidu, near Beijing, China. A company is running group tours to the area for the soon-to-be-married couples in a spectacular settings. Acknowledments : Times of India).
Here are some interesting facts about our life and death :
Right handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left handed people do.
A person will die from total lack of sleep sooner than from starvation. Death will occur after about 10 days without sleep, while starvation takes a few weeks.
If the population of China walked past you in single line, the line would never end because of the rate of reproduction.
Our eyes remain the same size from birth onward, but nose and ears never stop growing.
Each square inch of human skin consists of twenty feet of blood vessels.
(Acknowledgment : Yahoo Group circulation)
For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, And a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.
— Ecclesiastes, 3:1-3:8.
I thought of not to post this love story of awful tragedy but my conscious did not allow me to be silent, at least in this case. Because this case has many angles like inter-religion marriage, corruption, money power, police in-actions, true love, economic and social status. Because of all these, city has seen the unprecedented public and media resentments in this case. So I decided to post it for my readers. Better late than never.
In films we always find that a boy from a poor family fall in love with a wealthy father’s only daughter and they overcome the hurdles on their way and finally love wins and get married with the approval of parents and they live happily ever after. The story ends like this in most of the cases.
But real life stories seldom end like reel life stories. Rizwanur Rahman and Priyanka Tody love story has become a legendary love story of the city. The story shows us that real love does exist even today. Love is blind, it does not look for status, religion and nothing else. Rizwanur belong to a middle class or may be below middle class Muslim family, educated in St. Xavier’s college, gentle, sober. He was working as faculty in Arena Multimedia, a computer institute. Priynaka hails from a orthodox Hindu wealthy business family of Marwari community. Priyanka lives in a palatial house in Salt Lake city of Kolkata and Rizwanur in a small house in a narrow lane in Tiljala area.
They met in the same computer institute. Priyanka joined there for a course there. This difference of status and religion did not come on their way to fall in love and to further it to marriage. They knew the hurdles to be faced from her family hence they got married in accordance with the special marriage act. She moved to her poor husband’s home leaving the palatial residence literary with one cloth even leaving her costly N-series Nokia mobile phone, thinking that her father may give a police complaint of theft of that and ornaments. Her imagination was wrong.
Priyanka’s father lodged a complaint with local police station that Rizwanur abducted their daughter. But this did not hold good when they showed all proof of marriage and age proof certificates. Priyanka said I am with my husband, I have come here willingly and nobody abducted or forcibly brought me here. We are married and I want to live with my husband. The local police did not interfere further, they went back. But his father did not stop there. It is reported in the media that he was having unholy link with the police. When he did not get any help from local police he went to Police head quarters. Then the Police started unlawful actions for separating them by sending Priyanka back to her home. They were called to Police HQ three times and marriage witness Was also threatened. Priyanka all along was unwilling to go to her parental home back. She told to Rizwanur family members “Once I go there, I would not be allowed to come back again.” Rizwanur was pressurized to send her back to her home by the police. His friend later revealed that the police threatened for dire consequences if she is not sent home. Later, on Sep 08, 2007, on a written undertaking of her uncle assuring that she will be to Back to Rizwanur after 7 days, Priyanka went to her home. Mediator of this was none other than police. What made the police to act so much for breaking a legal marriage. Rizwanur was also assured of having communication with her but soon that was disrupted and both were separated. As apprehended, Priyanka never allowed to return to her husband and her 8 days married life ended abruptly. All communications were cut off and Rizwanur could not establish any communication with her till his death. Once he pleaded to his father-in law and mother-in law by SMS to listen Priyanka’s voice for once but his request was not met. Later, on the same day his body was found beside Railway tracks.
Role of police is now under a question mark. They are supposed to be the protector of the citizen but in this case they turned to be tormentor to the young couple. Since they all along trying to separate them as per the wish of Ashok Todi. It is unbelievable to think about the involvement of police for unlawful activities. It is understood that there is a clear ruling of Supreme Court on inter religion marriage for their protection. In spite of that the police has gone just in opposite direction.
There was tremendous resentments of the citizen against the police. Had it been in other part of India, there would have been a communal riot but here people from all walk of life, irrespective of religion including the print and electronic media stood with the family and shown their solidarity. All demanded for CBI investigation and justice. Calcutta High court gave a ruling for CBI investigation too and the same is in progress. There is nothing to say about the case now till its final judgment comes.
He realised that he is not going to get any protection from police. He did not approached to media or took any legal action bcoz Priyanka did not approve it. But now investigations revealed that finally he wanted to take help of some political leader and a meeting was fixed on 21 Sep 07 the day he died. It is now evident that his mobile was tapped and ‘they’ came to know from his conversations that he is going to meet political leader /minister and they wanted not to happen so. Next morning i.e. 21 Sep 07, he got a call and went out alone and never returned. His body was found on the raiway track.
It is awful. A poor innocent guy was fighting alone with money and muscle power. He can not win. Had he gone to media at the beginning, he would have saved his life. The rich can buy anything and the poor, the middle class people have to run from pillar to post to get the legitimate rights or justice. Surprisingly, the high ranking IPS officers who should be honest, dedicated and ideal and example of their integrity to the young generation, are involved in this case for the wrong reasons. The poor Rizwanur and Priyanka, newly married couple, having full of dreams in their eyes, having no money, had to surrender to the money power and a terrible tragedy came to their lives.
Riz’s college mourning his death.
Disclaimer : The story, facts are presented here based on print and electronic media reports, which may not be true.
Once the first Prime Minister of India, Jawaharlal Nehru said, “you can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women”. It is a fact that the social condition of women of any nation is a pointer to the level of development of that nation.
The story of Indian women is as old as the history of Indian civilization. In ancient times Aryans were the main inhabitant of India. These people were mainly Brahmins and they used to give the status of goddess to the women. Lakshmi, Durga and Saraswati were the Goddess which the women were honoured to. In a Sanskrit sloka it says about women that ‘Yatra Naryastu Pujyante, Ramante Tatra Devta‘ – where woman are worshiped, God resides. So that was the social status of women in the Vedic era in India.
In the post Vedic era, the status of women began to decline with time. Gender inequality started creeping into the society. But the status of women started declining due change in the society and mixing up of other foreign cultures with the Indian cultures,as a result of many foreign invaders. These invaders came to India with their own culture with them. Invaders were the rulers for many years, which made the Aryan cultures totally lost or changed. As foreigner, having no respect to the women, their main aim was looting the wealth and enjoying beautiful women. As polygamy was a norm for these invaders they kept them in their “harems” for fulfilling their lust. This type of disrespectful treatment towards women were spread in the society and slowly crept into the minds of Indian people and they also began to treat their own women in the similar manners. This changes in the society declined the status of women in the society.
Shakuntala a character of epic Mahabharat
The foreign invaders are no more ruling the country, but the degrading of status of women is still continuing in some form or the other. It has come to the girl child and the plight of a girl child starts before she sees the light of this beautiful world. They are not allowed to reach to womanhood. In some parts of India, in the society where illiteracy and superstitions prevails, the girl childs are killed before they are born. The technological development has become the curse in this case or you can say the misuse of technology. It is an universal test during pregnancy but nowhere like India the girl fetuses are killed. Otherwise also in some parts of India, birth of a girl child still considered to be a curse and burden (due to dowry). So there are plenty of instances of killing girl childs as soon as they were born. National census statistics (2001) shows that a child sex ratio of 927 girls per 1,000 boys. (news in Times of India dated 08 Oct 2007)
We should break age-old myth that a daughter is no longera curse and a burden to the parents. If a daughter is given a proper education, she will never be less than a son. They who prefer son should know that –
“A son is a son till he gets a wife,
but a daughter is a daughter for life”.
Daughters are future mothers who helps God’s system of continuing species on this planet. Without a womb, birth of human being cannot be possible in the natural way. It is God’s wish, and God created women. Who are we to go against God, against nature ?
In a family, girl childs are like flowers in the garden, they just radiates fragrance, the beauty. They are the companions, they are the passionate lovers, they are the loving wives, they are the lovely home makers, they are the affectionate mothers, they are the Goddess, Goddess Lakshmi (Means Goddess of wealth).
(Photo : Images of paintings by Raja Ravi Varma)
Experience of hubbies about their better halves are universal.“Life is not the bed of roses” – generally we don’t experience anything about this before marriage. That we can’t experience before marriage coz actual life starts after marriage only. Before marriage we see lot of dreams, which vanishes soon we woke up after marriage. Married life may not be ‘bed of roses’ but it can be compared with a rose where flower and thorn both co-exist. In a married life too, there are happiness as well as lot of adjustments and balancing.
To sail the boat smoothly, avoiding unwarranted situations following a silly comments to your better half, the under mentioned remarks should be avoided :
1. The food is excellent, but you know my mom used to add something that is missing in this, may be you should ask her.
2 Don’t you think you are shopping and spending too much money these days on items, which are not necessary?
3. I think you should change your style of dressing – this does not suit you any longer.
4. Honey! You seem to have put on weight!
and don’t praise any of your friend’s wife.
Some of the Rules of Life are reproduced below for the guidance of all. Try to follow some of the rules, if not all, for a right path to a happy and successful life.
1. Marry the right person . Take your decision very cautiously because this one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery in your life. Most of the people, commit mistake to select life partner because at young age most of the people, don’t take it seriously.
2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
6. Be generous.
7. Have a grateful heart.
8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
12. Commit yourself to quality.
13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationship with people you love and respect.
14. Be loyal.
15. Be honest.
16. Be a self-starter.
17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
19. Take good care of those you love.